Growing up under a Jehovah witness household we were taught God was the higher power and not man (government). As I became an adult my decisions are still lead with the same principles but not as a witness. So I am registered as an independent voter. This way it allows me to choose what I strongly believe and matches my spiritual and moral beliefs. Yes I do feel that every man and woman is imperfect and will lie to get their way. It’s just picking the right leaders and laws that earn my vote. Believe me when I tell you there are times I don’t vote.
My message today is not about who will lead us the next 4 years. Or whether I feel the candidates are the best choice for our country. My concern is how this election has created so much hatred, animosity, underhanded scheming and outlandish behavior. So much so that we penetrated a federal building.
What I thought was the perfect small hometown community to raise my children 25 years ago has turned into a city that riots and creates havoc every Sunday. This past Sunday our police station was vandalized and threats to our community and officers. My anxiety has been so high these past few days as I wait to see what unrest happens as our new leaders take office tomorrow. The next weeks, months and even years will be like this. We as a human race have surpassed a certain point that there is no return. No matter what house runs the government.
So I am urging everyone to work on ways to bring positivity to others. So kindness. Remove yourself from social media posts that will only drag you down. Maybe just stay away from it altogether for the next few weeks. Spend time talking to the ones that put a smile on your face. Remember what we all learned in preschool or kindergarten. If you have nothing nice to say…then say nothing. Be respectful to everyone. Be safe and healthy.
Growing up and having a parent not celebrating holidays was a bit challenging for someone who loved all the family traditions built around Christmas. I loved singing the Christmas carols in choir. I loved knowing families spent the holidays preparing to spend time together eating and having fun just being together. The only thing I could never get into was playing games. I do like watching others play. I just don’t like participating 🤣.
As a teenage parent with no parents or family support I worked hard to build traditions for my son when he was little. I would buy a small tree and a couple small gifts a tight budget would allow. We went to movies on Christmas day after an early dinner before it became a big thing to do. Movies even release on Christmas now 🤣
After I got married and had my daughter it was important to build a strong family with traditions. We did many family events. Christmas tree lighting, sometimes volunteering, walking candy cane lane. Of course as the kids got older we would have to force the fun 🤣
With the children grown and living with their own families my husband and I have to learn to adjust to a new set of traditions. This year was wonderful because my granddaughter is starting to spend the night with us. So last night we had a night of Pizza and TV. This morning we made Christmas cookies. Hung out in the afternoon watching her favorite shows and then frosted her cookies. Tonight we had our small family dinner and gifts with our daughter and family. Christmas day my husband and I will get FaceTime calls from both our children and grandchildren 🤞🏻. Meanwhile we can relax and do nothing tomorrow. It is such a blessing to just enjoy the time you do get and not worry about doing it on a day dictated by the actual holiday. I am sure this derives from not celebrating holidays when I was younger, but the time is so much more important than Dec 25th.
As we finish out the year and move into 2021 please remember to think of all your blessings you get every day or every week. Have a wonderful Christmas and New Years
As we get closer to Christmas we think about our family memories. And that could be “blood” or chosen family. When it comes to my parents or siblings it gets a bit rough. I was raised by very toxic and abusive parents, my brother spent most of his life in prison (for reasons I don’t discuss), and my sisters live separate and distant lives. My maternal aunts and uncle spent a great many years protecting and raising me for half of my childhood. Most memories I carry in my brain are during the years I spent around my aunts and uncle. I lost an aunt (breast cancer) and uncle (AIDS) early on in my adult life. As I have gotten older I very seldom see my remaining aunt. Life just gets in the way. This past weekend I got to spend a day just visiting and gossiping. It was a wonderful day for my husband and I to just enjoy the day with her. We’re all not getting any younger so these times are special. It is so important to cherish the moments you can have with your family. Being around your family brings belonging and solidarity. I won’t say peace…because we all know thats not always true 🤣.
Most of my “family” is not blood related. They were picked and chosen for many special reasons. They are just like me- ornery. Or they have characteristics I need to bring out in myself. A couple of them are so special they are both ornery and a better person. I am so blessed to have such wonderful friends who bring out the best in me. I feel god has given them as a reward for all I have lost and given in my life. This year has been difficult not seeing them…but I know when the time comes we can be together and it will feel like it was just yesterday we saw each other. That is why chosen families are the best.
My husband and I will be alone this year for Christmas and New Years . I am sure we will have a great time just FaceTime our children and grandchildren Enjoy a more creative way to share your time now for a brighter future. I don’t know about yourselves but I laugh alot and think about all the crazy conversations I have with a 2 yr on FaceTime several times a week. My granddaughter loves me showing her my Christmas tree and all the ornaments. She will ask to see it almost every day. Then she just wants to sit and watch TV and won’t want to hang up. The other day her mom put ponytails in and she loved them so much. So almost the whole call it mostly just showed her ponytail bouncing around. Cracked me up. Remember these past few weeks have been about finding your little blessing. If you’re not able to find something every day…it sure has been easy to find one every week. If you would like me to keep sharing after next week let me know. I know it has helped me a lot to think back on the week and remember how blessed I can be if I allow it.
Sharing my 2019 recap video – 12 days of Christmas on being mindful and less stressful during the holidays. You’re welcome to visit my blog to read the full highlights from last year. This year I am sharing weekly blessings since this year we need to remind ourselves to be grateful.
Sitting on my couch getting ready to share how this week has been really nice and relaxing. Then out of nowhere this stupid fly keeps flying around me and my face …grrr #@*@# fly. Relaxation no more. Actually I am ok. 😂
This past week has been a bit more manageable at work. So the shut off button has been set each night. Asta pasta peeps…talk to you in the morning
Having the energy and great vibes this week gave me the opportunity to just sit and be creative. I included a few holiday cocktails (Fireball and Egg Nog 😋), a heated blanket to complete my environment. I did a bit of embroidery for a Christmas tea towel. Maybe a gift. Haven’t decided yet. I spent time watching Christmas movies (yes…i was in control of the remote), and crocheting part of my baby blanket. Still working a bit on the slipper I mentioned earlier. I want to throw in the towel and admit to my defeat. However…my virgo tendencies overruled my brain. So the challenge has moved to the end of the month. I will check in later. I don’t generally hop between projects like this prior to completion. That in itself made it relaxing of sorts.
This way I enjoyed it more and felt a bit more accomplished. Of course, I won’t make multiple projects at a time a habit in the future. My drive to complete things will kick in by next week I am sure.
Just taking the time for creativity, and just relaxing brings a peace and mindfulness you just don’t have to pay for. Please enjoy some sitting around time doing what you love. I am positive you deserve it. Well! Have a wonderful week
As the saying goes..”Being late and a dollar short”. This week has flown by so quickly. I forgot to post my blessing this week. So here goes it.
These past few months I find myself wanting to be more of a recluse than I have ever been before. I find working from home and the desire to not wear a mask, or be around others has created this bubble around myself. I will procrastinate or make excuses to myself to avoid going out anywhere…even if it’s only for the need for milk, food or toothpaste. I worry the longer we stay under partial or full lockdowns I will never leave the house or want to be around others. Even worse, having the social skills to communicate or be around others in a social environment. Believe me this is not the right way to live our lives.
This week I forced myself to go to a small Free Slow Stitch: (Appliqué, Crochet, Embroidery, Knit) gathering at my local quilt shop I signed up for weeks ago. I am so glad I went. I learned new techniques ( as i knew I would) and enjoyed the company of others . It’s such a great way to remind ourselves the community needs us as well. We sat at a social distance and worked on individual projects for 2 hours. It was a refreshing break to have a reason to put shoes and regular pants on to meet new people.
As we shift back into mandatory shutdown again let’s find a creative way to communicate and build a community. Thursday night I found myself volunteering to test out a crochet pattern for a wonderful lady online. We are making the cutest children booties. Lets just say …I have frogged it 4 times last night and went to bed. The pattern is easy enough…I just need to learn how to follow a pattern 🤣🤣. So maybe this weeks project will be one finished bootie and perseverance.
Making time for yourself is a great way to take a step back and relinquish control, even if for 15 mins a day. This past week I was able to get off a bit early one day. It was so nice to do a couple of errands and still enjoy some sunshine and extra evening time. My work extended summer hours to fall hours (clock out 2 hours early one day a week- you have to makeup time during the week) this was a blessing to have the option available. Just to help me feel accomplished.
It’s so important to allow ourselves some peaceful moments and do something fun. One of my sewing groups started a few months ago an invite on random days and times to set aside some time to work on a project, clean /organize your sewing space or just go shopping for new projects. The members of the group love it because it gives yourself permission and a reminder to set a time to have some fun.
These snippets of time helps to refresh your mind for better time. So be sure to take as many time outs you can. I love to just sit and work on embroidery projects, crochet/knitting or read fiction for my time outs. I especially love leaving work 2 hours early 🤣. What things do you do to enjoy time?
I want to wish everyone who celebrates Thanksgiving a wonderful day. If you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving today I still want to wish you a wonderful day. Thanksgiving has always been special to me. This is the time we spend reflecting on being together as friends and family, and what we’re thankful for. My favorite tradition has been after dinner; the tables are cleared the ladies will go through the holiday ads together and catch up on the gossip while the men play poker or watch football and the kids hanging out in between. This year might be slightly smaller, but focus being together happy and healthy.
As I mentioned before the summer of 2019 my employer of 8 years outsourced my job to India. I spent several months looking for a new job. Luckily in March right before “self quarantine” at home was a thing I started a new job. I have spent the past 9 months at home doing all my training over google video chats. In June the California leaders chose to transfer inmates to San Quentin and a huge outbreak broke out and infected 3/4 of the inmates. My husband chose to retire in June instead of November as planned. We wanted to protect him and our family from Covid 19 .
I feel blessed and grateful to have the opportunity to work from home. It’s nice to enjoy relaxing more on break times. Taking back the 2+ hrs time back from not commuting. I am saving on gas and mileage by not traveling every day.
What I am most grateful for is the time I get to spend with my husband during the day. He makes me breakfast most mornings. I used to grab what I could eat in the car for so long. This week I am grateful he treated me to a couple peppermint mochas in the afternoon. It was a great pick me up from a rough week.
Some of the tiniest gestures can make a big impact on others. A peppermint mocha can just be a peppermint mocha to others. For me it was someone who brought me some warmth and comfort on a rough day. What where you blessed with this week? Or did you provide a blessing to someone else?
For those of us just watching and waiting to see who will be our “confirmed” leader for the next four years let’s ponder something good. We are officially in the countdown for Christmas and Thanksgiving. I urge each of us to find something that was a blessing in disquise throughout the upcoming weeks. I will share something positive from each week every Thursday for 6 weeks until Christmas starting next week.
I started off this past weekend building a foundation of bringing myself and others joy. I created a small handmade gift bag of treats as a token of gratitude to 12 friends and family members. I called them SHE (Smile, Happiness and Encourage) gifts. I wanted to help bring these 3 things to others. Everyone is so angry and hurtful to others, and it is about time too take back control of your behaviors and attitudes . I urge you to join me November 19th. You can follow me on my Facebook group if you would prefer. https://www.facebook.com/knittingforcalmness/
I have been working on a Christmas table runner. The top is done. I will finish this weekend. My SHE gifts included a handmade card, tea towel, chocolates and cookies
Growing up and living under my mothers roof we never celebrated holidays. This was due to her religious beliefs. I was blessed to have spent several years under my uncle and his partner Michael’s custody. During this time I was able to witness and celebrate many holidays. Michael spent so much effort in making sure all the holidays were special for a us. We decorated Christmas trees with millions of pieces of tensile, my aunts taking me trick or treating or having family holiday dinners. My grand parents coming in their motor home for a month in between Thanksgiving and Christmas. These are the only memories I recollect from my childhood.
These memories have built my love for my favorite holiday…Thanksgiving. When I was a young parent I made sure I always decorated for and celebrated the holidays. Even if it was not much; or my children even knew they were experiencing traditions. This was all part of my drive to leaving the past behind and changing my future. So you ask why I love Thanksgiving most of all? Well…it is the only holiday where it was truly just about being with family, friends and showing love and gratitude to each other. This was what I wanted for our little family of four….until our family expanded to 10 (currently).
Ok….getting to my point of this message. We are pretty much 6 weeks away from Thanksgiving. These past 11 months have been hard for all the obvious reasons COVID-19, unemployment, social distancing, yelling at people for not social distancing or wearing masks, politics, fires, and just plain nastiness to ourselves and each other.
I am so fed up with the way we are treating each other. We are all under the same pressures and differences – but this is no excuse to live with the hatred and disrespect for others. So I am asking everyone for the next few weeks give the gift of Happiness. Giving a small gift to someone can light up their day. You don’t even need to spend money. Fill out a note card and just say you are giving them a virtual hug or smile- or a free errand or task. Bake some cookies and leave on your coworkers/ friends front door. Mail a card. Make a phone call to the friend that never calls or texts you. Giving ourselves to others are gifts that will give a peace to others and yourself . Try to do one Happiness gift a week or more. Let’s see how you feel after Thanksgiving. Please share this post and any stories to encourage more people to participate.
Ps…In regards to my projects. I am currently working on a bulky crochet blanket for my new granddaughter this winter, made a tie blanket for another granddaughter. But mostly I am progressing my new love of quilting. I have always wanted too…but just never started. Being locked up in the house for CoVid and health issues caused by the fires I have worked on several projects. I did a really big project in Aug/Sept with a lot of appliqué. And I upgraded to a computerized sewing machine 🙂
I have started and stopped this post a few times. We have been busy with a cracked tub and remodeled bathrooms these past few weeks. My biggest excuse is I have been busy learning new sewing projects.
Today let’s discuss the word perseverance. So what is perseverance ? It is defined as the persistent effort of doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.
This is exactly what we as humans need during this time while we start to venture back outside into a world with other humans (at a distance and covered up of course). I don’t know about you, but I feel such a weird vibe when I go out nowadays. People look at you weird or differently because your wearing/not wearing a mask. Or maybe they’re thinking why are you out at the same time as me-then I think why are you out 😂. With all the political things going on it puts extra stress on you. This leaves a person not even wanting to address or talk to anyone because the last thing you want to do is get in a heated discussion on whether you’re taking a side. But to me that can cause strife as well. So how can you persevere during 2020? I am here to tell you I have no idea…lol.
I can tell you what I try to do and I hope it will help you a bit.
1. I fit in a compromised group when it comes to health issues. But I don’t live my life in fear. So I follow the CDC guidelines. Wear a mask, stand 6 ft apart and only go out when I need or want something. Wash my hands when I get back. I personally just do it any time anyone has a cold or flu now or 5 years ago. Just smart!
2. I don’t respond to any social media posts. I follow more crafting, knitting and sewing sites. This changes my feed immensely. It balances my social media with positivity and creativity. I have learned so many new things. I am making quilting blocks now. I am getting pretty decent at it.
3. I only check on the news maybe once a week. There is nothing I hate more than repeating the same crap every day and all day. Stay informed…but limit your exposure.
4. I am missing just having dinner or lunch with my friends. Or just going for a visit. My favorite tea place is going out of business and I can’t do one last hooray with my best tea buddies. I like doing virtual projects together with friends. It means I don’t have to get dressed, shower or drive anywhere to have fun. Just knowing we are protecting each other by distancing helps alot…because you care for these people’s well being.
5. Just be respectful and kind. Try to smile or show kindness covered up. Even if people are shitty you can still be positive. Just walk away. Don’t feel you gotta prove a point…it’s only you you’re trying to prove it too.
I encourage everyone to continuously keep looking for opportunities to learn a new skill, craft or ways to improve your career or personal lives. When we stimulate our brains it can add new outlook on life or give us a new purpose to pursue.
Officially the weekend starts in 27 minutes. This has been a week from H.E. double hockey sticks. I worked way to much these past 4 days. It was even a 4 day week. Here I was going to brag to you all on Monday how relaxing it was to shut off for 3 days. Nothing prepared me for the next 4 days. 😂
So let me ask you all…how was your week? I have a feeling there was something in the air for lots of us.
So what better way to make yourself feel better and bring contentment …give to other’s. My plan for tomorrow is to do what I like to do…sewing. So how does that help others? I plan to help make some drawstring backpacks for foster children in Yolo/Solano’s counties. Being a foster kid myself a few times when I was younger I understand what it means to not feel like you belong anywhere; or no one cares for you. The social system failed me as a child and I feel it is still broken. I was briefly taken from one form of abusive parents to bad foster homes. So anyway you can help a teen or child it benefits their well-being. I have always wanted to help and teach teenagers just because you had bad experiences…you’re still responsible in making life choices. There’s always options.
Giving a piece of your heart/time to your community is actually a gift to yourself Remember that!!! Don’t start big…little things make big impacts.
Of course I will finish off by just doing quiet activities…like reading, drinking tea,napping or working on my knitting/crochet. It’s pretty much mandatory to do nothing one day when you have the crappiest week. Gotta recharge and be mindful.
I bet now you can’t get that song out of your head …insert evil 😆.
I know it’s been awhile since you have heard from me, but not much has been helpful in keeping a mindful mind or heart. These past few weeks our small community has had so many big city activities going on. Almost to the point you can’t feel safe to go outside or be in certain parts of town.
I wanted to share with you an observation I had last week. My work has been putting more COViD 19 precautions in place. As I am sure they should be- no argument there. But you see I work from home. So I am blessed by being in a quiet and peaceful environment that I choose to surround myself by. Two weeks ago I was even able to take a small trip to the Ocean and work at the desk in my hotel room.
I was looking at pictures of a new break room that just designed to be COVID restricted (aka…safer) All my mind could process were these bright green signs probably around 20 or more surrounding the walls, the windows and the appliances in the room. I can only assume they’re reminders of what you can’t do. The vibe created such a horrible sensory to my inner being of how a room could be so impactful to anything that should be conducive to stepping away from work and enjoying a break/rest. Or socialize with our peers during this time. I am not sure if these environments make others feel robbed?
I am grateful I have that separation for 8+ hours of my day. I get to choose when to go out and have to follow public guidelines. So the question is how can a person keep our minds mindful during a pandemic. I am here to tell you…I have no idea. My suggestions would be is to try to minimize your exposure to the “signs”. Instead of taking breaks in a room . Go eat somewhere else. I used to put a camping chair next to my car, put my feet up, turn the car radio on and just pretend I was on a picnic at my old job. Those were great times. Of course some folks thought I was weird. Maybe my weirdness can help bring calmness from all the postings that stare at us everywhere. Un-clutter you vision. Let me know if you have tried other ways to live in our Do This or Don’t Do That current life management?
Anyone else working to finish projects before the end of year? The past week I have been working on completing projects. Wanted to start 2021 with a clean slate. I finished the bulky blanket for my granddaughter Ella, finished the edges for a baby blanket available to gift or sell and finished binding my placemats. I plan to learn how to free hand quilt this year to finish my quilt tops Imade this year.
This year I have learned so much from my quilting and crocheting. I do need to finish a knitting project…but I can’t seem to get back to it. I need to get working on it as well. Have a happy and safe New Years