Do you follow through on promises you make to yourself?

A new year is always considered a time for fresh starts and new beginnings. We make promises to ourselves and the first few days or weeks we might follow through, but then life comes to a head and our enthusiasm may sizzle to non-existence.

For example you may make a promise to yourself you will do more for yourself to bring calmness to your day or weeks. Have you kept that promise? How well have you seen it through? Do you take the easiest road? Lets say you decided to just take those quick brisk walks by yourself to center yourself. The first couple days you do pretty well. Then before you know it you start thinking about all you could be doing and go less often. Or you chose to make a phone call during those walks. What we generally forget is that this time was meant to center and refresh ourselves. This was a broken promise. How many times do you think as parents we skipped time with our younger children because we thought chores were a priority and thought we would have more quality time later? Now they are adults and have their own families repeating the same mistakes. These are broken promises we make to not just us, but to our children as well.

I urge and encourage all my of us to stop breaking promises to ourselves. Once we do this we will learn to slow down and enjoy more moments. We can’t keep every promise or commitment or goal. Teach yourself a new way to act or behave as your true person-not who you think you should be. Start with small goals. As humans we like to “Go Big”. Smaller goals build stepping stones to your bigger goal. Be careful to not over commit. It is still OK to tell people “No”. I know it is hard to do. It took me so long to learn this myself. I am so glad I learned to stand up for myself and built guidelines to what I can and can’t do for others. My health is happier for it and I have less relapses of vision loss. What are you going to promise yourself this week?

Overcoming internal self judgement .

Good evening! My apologies for being a bit quiet. I have been working on a few projects this past week. I started my very first double crochet baby blanket. I am kinda proud of myself on how well I am doing. 😊 My daughter decided she wanted to make some baby burp pads for my upcoming granddaughter and wants to sell some of them online. That has taken so much time these past few days because I am a novice at it. They look really nice…but I will need to practice some more to be perfect.

These past few weeks have been challenging to my self esteem due to still being unemployed for the past 7 months. My unemployment payments will end shortly. Several times throughout the day I’m needing to remind myself the harshest criticisms are often self-inflicted. Nothing clutters and stresses our minds like internal self-judgements. I encourage anyone feeling this way to pay attention to your thought patterns and notice when your inner critic rears up. Being aware of these thoughts as they occur, and most importantly step forward in replacing internal criticism with calmness. Just the act of awareness is a step towards mindfulness.

I know in my heart patience will bring my dream job soon. I just need to be patient. I started reading a book this week called Girl, Wash your Face by Rachel Hollis a blogger and bestseller. I hope to share with you some insights as I go. The below quote helps remind us we are in control of our lives and stories. I will just need to work harder and be patient in finding a rewarding new career. Check out Loretta’s Creations if you would like to see my first burp clothes and blanket. 😂

What about a mood temperature blanket?

January is progressing nicely. My new experience this month was to learn the Tunisian crochet technique. After a billion tries (maybe 10 is closer to the real number 😊) I am doing pretty good. Here is my sample. When I have a completed a blanket I will share my progression at a later time. I also joined a few crochet groups on Facebook. There was much discussion regarding Pen Pals. In the spirit of mindfulness for myself and others…I am officially a pen pal with 3 new lady friends. I hope to share our experiences with projects and friendships from afar.

On New Years day there was much discussion on making temperature blankets. The basic idea of a temperature blanket is to crochet (or knit) a number of rows on a blanket each day for a full calendar year. The colors used each day correspond with the temperature outside. I was thinking instead of the outside weather how cool would it be to do a mood blanket? This would help us recognize our daily feelings and be mindful of them. I think I will put a chart together tomorrow. If you’re interested in doing this with me or just interested go ahead and let me know. I will be sure to share if there’s an interest. Any color ideas?

Here’s to ending and starting a new decade.

Did you all have a wonderful Christmas? We had a nice and relaxing day. Everyone in our house has been fighting a head cold that we can’t seem to shake off. I had laryngitis for a couple days. I would like to wish everyone a safe and fabulous New Years Eve and 2020. Our new plan will consist of us staying home and eating chicken soup.

Don’t forget I challenged all of us to experience something new every month this next year (Day 9 of Mindfulness). You can post and share your January adventures or thoughts here; or on Knitting For Calmness Facebook group. My January adventure will be teaching myself Tunisian crochet in January. I am hoping to make a blanket for my upcoming grand daughter. The colors are pretty. I will share later how well it goes. Keep your expectations low 🤣. Wishing you all the best this year.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

I want to wish everyone a happy and safe Christmas and New Years! Not sure about you, but the mindful tips helped me stay calm and more patient this holiday season. I put together a video with all the tips in one place. This way you can review throughout the year.

I am hoping for new beginnings this next year. Keep your fingers crossed I should be hearing something back regarding new job opportunities after the holidays. I am getting a bit antsy being home. It has been nice in some ways, but it is time to move forward in my dream of transitioning into a wine marketing career.

DAY 12- “MINDFUL” PRESENCE

Everyday repetitive activities can become mundane or boring. We are able to cultivate awareness and present-moments. It is not about the activity you’re engaged in, but rather the quality of attention you bring to that activity. When you begin to shift out of your repetitive thoughts, any activity can become a more conscious and profound experience. One example can be as simple as waiting in line. We are impatient causing stress to others, as well as ourselves. If we just took the time to relax , breath and be present in the moment we could experience more mindfulness.

When spending time with your families the next couple days be aware of staying present. Leave your phones in another room on purpose. I totally understand if you’re like me and you have children out of town with their own families or unaccessible for any reason, and you have to wait for their call. So I will give you a small pass…but put your phone in your pocket until it vibrates 🤣. Enjoy and be present for your friends and loved ones in front of you.

I have enjoyed sharing these past 12 days with you. I hope you carry these tips throughout the New Year and further on in your future. I wish you all a Happy Holiday season and New Years! 2020 will be a year for new beginnings. If you want to connect and follow my Facebook page here is the link. If there are any tips or comments you would like to share please do so.

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DAY 12- “MINDFUL” PRESENCE

Everyday repetitive activities can become mundane or boring. We are able to cultivate awareness and present-moments. It is not about the activity you’re engaged in, but rather the quality of attention you bring to that activity. When you begin to shift out of your repetitive thoughts, any activity can become a more conscious and profound experience. One example can be as simple as waiting in line. We are impatient causing stress to others, as well as ourselves. If we just took the time to relax , breath and be present in the moment we could experience more mindfulness.

When spending time with your families the next couple days be aware of staying present. Leave your phones in another room on purpose. I totally understand if you’re like me and you have children out of town with their own families or unaccessible for any reason, and you have to wait for their call. So I will give you a small pass…but put your phone in your pocket until it vibrates 🤣. Enjoy and be present for your friends and loved ones in front of you.

I have enjoyed sharing these past 12 days with you. I hope you carry these tips throughout the New Year and further on in your future. I wish you all a Happy Holiday season and New Years! 2020 will be a year for new beginnings. If you want to connect and follow my Facebook page here is the link. If there are any tips or comments you would like to share please do so.

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DAY 11 – “MINDFUL” REST

Today is what retailers call “SUPER SATURDAY or PANIC SATURDAY” marking the biggest shopping day for last minute shoppers. I personally call this avoid the shopping center and malls day 🤣. I am sure I will need something before the day is over and will be participating in the madness as well.

Be sure to practice mindful check ins throughout the next few days . Take some time to just pause and rest. How are you feeling physically, emotionally and mentally? Maybe all you need to do is just step back, breathe and let go. Reading a book or listening to music can also be helpful to reset your mind. Be careful if you find yourself out shopping today.

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DAY 10 – ACCEPTING FEELINGS “MINDFULLY”

Being mindful isn’t about being happy all the time. It’s about accepting the moment we’re in and feeling whatever we feel without trying to resist or control it. Best practices in managing our feelings is identifying what makes us feel anger, anxiety or hurt feelings. It’s ok to have those feelings and accept them for what they are. Talk them through with a friend or a loved one. They will pass…but don’t allow them to grow and eat at you.

A few years back my oldest decided he wanted to not live at home at the age of 17. This broke my heart into a million pieces and the guilt I had for failing him was the worst experience in my life. Then one day I realized what more could I teach him before he was 18. He was already established as a wonderful and loving young man. He knew what was right or wrong. He could make sound decisions and judgements (for his age that is 🤣). What more could a mother ask for. I learned through this experience it was mostly my own feelings and pride that was hurt and I had to work through it myself. My goal was to not put a wedge or damage our relationship for the future.

Just know there are solutions in life. You just have to look for them. Sometimes they are under a rock, sometimes they are under a ####ing mountain. They are there and it’s ok to feel and accept your feelings. Just don’t strangle your mother in law on Christmas day no matter how much you want too. Five day’s until Christmas y’all.

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DAY 9 – “MINDFULLY” ACCEPT OPENNESS TO NEW EXPERIENCES

Spiritual Leader Eckhart Tolle once said “The only thing that is ultimately real about your journey is the step that you are taking at this moment. That’s all there ever is.” Allowing ourselves to be open to new experiences is a byproduct of living mindfully. Our presence and peace of mind tend to take in and savor moments of wonder and simple joys.

I am very guilty for shutting myself away from trying new things. Mostly the reasons are due to me not wanting to participate; or have a lot of attention on myself. I have become very selective on who I spend my time and energy with. I am fully aware I miss out on so many new adventures. Let us all promise each other we will experience something new every month of 2020. We will call it a journey to new experiences. I will start a pinned post on my Facebook page with a word document where we can document each month how we did. What do you say…are you in this with me?

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Day 8 – ARE YOU TASKING “MINDFULLY”?

Can you believe we have been on this journey together for a week now? I hope you have enjoyed or practiced some “mindful” tips so far. The goal is to enjoy this holiday season, and be present in our “life” moments. Today we will focus on uni-tasking. Meaning completing one task for a given period of time, and then take a break before continuing or moving on to another task. Most days we juggle so many tasks at one time we find we may never complete even one task by the end of the day.

The last three or four months of the year typically are the busiest times for me. Everyone needs wine at the end of year 😂. I generally would receive 3-400 emails, 30 or more manual orders to process and have several reports to go over with 92 distributors throughout a 9-12 hr day. How did I manage this workload? A couple tips that worked for me. I would setup colored text or formatting for daily emailed reports that need to be actioned as soon as they came in. This helps to visually locate important emails. Sometimes emails can get missed if you receive a high volume of them. I would set up a separate folder to forward just my distributors emails. This way I could separate important emails from other noise and action them first. Create good subject lines for emails. Don’t always just reply as a topic changes. You may need to update your subject line to keep things accurate to your conversation. Always check and search your Inbox for related action items. You could already have the answer in you Inbox.

I like to keep lists on my phone for any action items or appointments I need to keep at home. I like to share my lists with my family so if they need to add an item to the grocery list it’s immediate. There’s a section for the grocery store, Target/Walmart and Costco. Having my kids and grandchildren out of town I even created a wish list for birthday’s and Christmas. That way everyone gets what they want.

When presented with many fires throughout your day organize them by levels of alarm 🚨. Always ask where they fit in your business/personal priorities. ASK for help, don’t do it alone. When I need to focus on a project I plug in my headphones. This will drown out the noise around me…and make me less accessible to others 🤣. What tools do you like to use to keep on task?

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DAY 7 – “MINDFUL” BREATHING

Anxiety almost always includes rapid breathing and an increase in heart rate. Other anxiety symptoms include restlessness, inability to concentrate, and sleep problems. I notice in myself I will hold my breath. This will in return increase my anxiety. I have to work on consciously breathing during stressful times. To stay cognizant of my breathing and heart rate I purchased a IWATCH. This has been a useful tool for me.

Calming the breath is the key to calming the mind. Try one of these tips. You can even practice while creating your next knitting or crafting project.

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